When do i get to do what i want?

You ‘have to’ do this, you ‘have to’ do that. Don’t you hate hearing that? Serious! Like there is nothing on your list of things to do that day that you want to do. Doesn’t it rip that you ‘have to’ do all these other things and never anything for yourself?

You’re not human if that doesn’t happen. My days start out like that sometimes. What I have learned to do is not fight that feeling. Those are not the kind of days you want to repeat themselves. I don’t know for sure but I think it starts a cycle of depression and I certainly don’t want to go down that road anytime soon.

Don’t give any energy to those miserable ‘have to’ feelings. Get out of the house and find something that you ‘want to’ do. The other list can wait you need to take a ‘You’ day!To help you create the drive to do the things you need to do you need have a little ‘you’ time.

Here’s a list that might help you live your life to the fullest everyday.

1. Laugh Out Loud! Laughter is some of the best medicine. If you’re feeling bad by just laughing a little bit you will feel a world of difference. Even I have felt miserable sometimes. Then someone even sometimes a stranger made me laugh. Have you ever laughed when something wasn’t funny? It releases so much you have to feel better. It didn’t take long to realize that laughing was the cure to those miserable feelings.

2. Not sure about your direction – How do you feel? Stop and think about it. Don’t do something until you know and feel it is the right thing to do. It’s Ok. Its about you. Decisions are important and your feeling good about them is also important. Is it stressful to go one direction but not the other? We’ve been given a great system for knowing what is right and wrong for us. It’s our feelings and emotions. Checking how you feel is a natural thing to do. Knowing how you feel is the first and most important step. Then decide based on how you feel. Your the one that matters. If you spend the time to ensure you’re going in a direction you want you’ll end up enjoying the journey so much more.

3. Get to know yourself. Go within. Find out who you are. Even when you’re alone make it quiet time. Having a relationship takes time. Even having a relationship with yourself takes time and effort. Some people meditate. Excercise and walking in nature are great activities. Find something you enjoy that you can do by yourself. Its who you are that you’re sharing so get to know the person you’re showing to other people.

4. It’s about spending time with the ones you love. It should go without saying but so many people give up time with the people they love in pursuit of things outside of themselves. Promotion and a raise? You’ll never get to re-live your kids childhood. They just want your time. They’ll do without a new car if they can see you at their basketball games! They can do without more furniture or a bigger house if you’re there for their dance recitals. When your time is done will you regret not buying a bigger house or not being at your childs first win?

Success is a state of mind. Success is not having the most when you die. I know Success is wanting what’s in front of you.

It’s up to you to live the best life. When you are who you choose to be you live life fully expressed. Your ‘have to’s turn into your want to’s. It’s a great life!